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Who knew that texting habits could reveal so much?
by strong cardigan mi Corinne Sullivan
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It goes without saying that texting plays a key role in our relationships. It provides a quick and convenient way to make late-night dinner plans while you're still at work. It also offers a less vulnerable way offlirt with your crushand test the waters. Up to youa way to stay connectedto his SO while the two are apart. Not to mention, texting can also convey valuable information about your feelings. There are certain signs of falling in love through text messages; so if you're not sure where she stands, you might be able to figure it out from her texting habits.
Of course, texting isn't the only way to tell ifsomeone is falling in love. And if you're dating someone who isnot a good messenger, so you'll obviously have a harder time mining their text conversations for clues as to where they are. However, experts say there are certain signs that generally suggest someone is developing feelings for texting. Some of them are perhaps more obvious, butthere are more subtle signstake care of yourself too. Do you want to know if the person you are talking to is crazy about you? Then look up one of these revealing texting habits.
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They reach at significant moments
In accordance withpatti madeira, body language expert and author ofSNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma,Time is the most important texting factor to consider when evaluating someone's feelings towards you. “What you do first in the day and what you do last has more truth to it,” she told Elite Daily. "So if a person's first thought in the morning is to communicate with you, that says a lot."
they are not only thosegood morning and good night messagesit matters too. If your partner checks in during your afternoon lunch or responds quickly to your midday text, that's a good sign, too. “If they're available all day, every day, they're opening the door for you,” she says.brown thrace, body language expert and author ofpoint of persuasion.
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they always come back to you
If they never let a text read for more than 20 minutes, chances are they like you. Someone who falls in love will want to make you a priority, and texting can tell you a lot. as an online dating expertjulie spirapreviously told Elite Daily, “if someone really loves you, they will respond to text messages quickly, especially within the first hour of receipt to keep the spark alive.” And while not everyone is trustworthy with their phones, chances are even an inconsistent messenger will search for your texts if they really like you.
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they keep you informed
If you've ever noticed your SO tell you what he has planned for the day or divulge what happened at the office without warning, experts say it's a strong indicator that he might be falling for you. Because? Because they want you to know more about them and they are inviting you into their world.
“You may not realize it, but being informed even about mundane things, that's significant,” Wood says. "Share information openly with you, without you asking me, there's a lot of intimacy in that."
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They have a special language that they use with you.
Does your current partner or crush have special greetings or nicknames they use when they text you? Or have they developed inside jokes with you that liven up your conversations? Creating this kind of coded language is not just super seductive; it could mean they are falling hard. “If you feel like it's unique to you and your conversations, that's special because no one else would understand it, just the two of you,” Wood explains.
It makes sense when you think about it. This is a way to strengthen your bond while separating your conversations from everything else on the phone. Obviously, you are special to them, or they would not bother to differentiate your texts by personalizing them.
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They pay attention to your life.
If the person you're chatting with remembers something you mentioned in a chat a while ago or mentions something you posted on social media, it means they're paying attention and actively interested in what's going on in your life. "If they know things about you that you haven't told them, it's not a scary sign that they like you," behavioral scientistclarisa silvapreviously told Elite Daily.
refer to something specificfrom your instagram storyor a TikTok you posted shows that they care and want to know what you're up to. And bringing it over to a text means they want you to know that they're interested in you and just want to keep talking.
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They send you many memes and GIFs
You might misinterpret a meme response as being lazy, but this type of text is actually a good sign. It suggests that the two of you share a familiarity and understand what tickles you. "Someone whosend lots of gifs and memesHe's a creative person who thinks outside the box,"april machine, relationship expert and founder ofrelationship advice forum, he previously explained to Elite Daily. "Instead of using the standard emojis, this GIF uploader is looking for something to express feelings that go beyond the norm."
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they ask too many questions
When the object of your affection asks how your night was or how your day at work is going, he is showing that he cares about being informed of what is going on in his life. and when theyask personal questionsover text that delves into their preferences, interests, and goals, they are showing that they want to get to know you on a deeper level. Both behaviors point to one thing: it is very possible that they are falling for you.
“If someone makes statements that don't ask for a response, that's a good sign they don't like you,” Brown explains. "People will ask questions or send you messages that require a response if they like you." Questions keep the conversation flowing; So if Bae asks you things over text, this suggests that he wants to stay as connected with you as possible.
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They want to talk outside of text messages.
According to Brown, one of the best signs of all is if your conversations stray from the topic of the text. Wanting to set up a phone call or FaceTime to talk is a pretty clear indication that they want to take things on a more intimate level, as both are more direct forms of communication.
“One of the most important ways to confirm your feelings would be to go from texting to phone calls, FaceTime, and finally meeting in person,” Kayla-Brooke White, NCC, LPC-R, MA, life coach atBlush, he previously told Elite Daily. "If you have the same chemistry in person and over text, you'll be a little more confident that those nights of texting paid off."
All of these texting habits can certainly point to the possibility that someone is falling for it. At the same time, don't stress if your crush or partner isn't showing off.allof these behaviors. Plus, if they plan to see you in person, they're showing in a different (and honestly more meaningful) way that they value quality time with you, and that's one of the bestways to build real intimacy.
Fuentes:
brown thrace, body language expert and author ofpoint of persuasion
patti madeira, body language expert and author of SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma
julie spira, online dating expert and author ofLove in the age of Trump
april machine, relationship expert and founder ofrelationship advice forum
clarisa silva, behavioral scientist
Kayla-Brooke White, NCC, LPC-R, MA, Life Coach atBlush
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